With current divorce rates between 40% and 50% in the US, getting divorced is fairly common. We all strive for a happy marriage but given these numbers, we need to also attempt to have a happy divorce. So what do we mean by a happy divorce. Let an experienced divorce lawyer, Wendy L. Hart share how to achieve a happy divorce.
There is No Need to Fight In Divorce
When most people think of divorce, the words “nasty” or “acrimonious” may get included. High-profile celebrity divorces like Johnny Depp and Amber Heard can highlight the ugliness divorced couples can exhibit. Beacuse of this many couples may fear their divorce will also be ugly and even include a court battle.
Though a divorce can include unhappy feelings, disappoitment in our spouses, and other negative emotions, these do not have to turn into nasty fights. If you were in a happy marriage, you wouldn’t be getting a divorce so these feelings are natural. But when it comes to dividing assets, working out child custody, and basically ending the relationship, its best to leave these emotional outbursts aside.
Fighting costs money. Your attorney is not working for free; the more you quibble, the more it costs as your lawyer files paperwork, requests hearings, represents at hearings, and spends expensive time on your issues. Instead concentrate on ways to compromise when your attorney suggests it. If you choose a line in the sand that is indefensible, you will likely lose and feel bad. As a alternative, work on getting a divorce in a timely and efficient way. Once divorced, you can focus on the next wonderful chapter of your life.
There is No Shame in Divorce
Given the numbers, you are not alone when getting a divorce. Though we are not implying a divorce should be casual, it also should not be a shameful event. People grow apart, fall out of love – it happens.
Work through any feelings of shame or failure with a good therapist. While you may personally feel ashamed at your part in “causing the divorce” it is important to move past the negative feelings and forgive yourself. You can be a better person after your divorce and be a better partner in your next relationshup if you resolve feelings of shame.
If you are co-parenting with your former spouse, you need to be mentally healthy and in a good place to properly parent your child. Your attention can be to be the “best mom or dad ever” after the divorce. Your children need to see a role model they can be proud of, even if you are showing that in spite of a difficulty like a divorce, former partners can be respectful, cordial, and supportive.
With time and a good attitude, you’ll be able to move past the emotional part of the divorce, have a better relationship with your former spouse, and achieve a that happy divorce. In the end, a happy divorce is where former spouses are respectful and cordial to one another and if possible, even friends.
A Fort Worth Compassionate Divorce Attorney
Since 2001, Wendy Hart has been helping couples in Fort Worth and Tarrant County, Johnson County and Ellis County with various family law issues, including divorce. As a divorcee, she understands what’s involved when a relationship breaks down. She also knows that after a divorce there can be new love, new successes, and lots of good times.
If divorce is in your future, we’re ready to help. Call The Law Office of Wendy L. Hart at (817) 842-2336 or use our online contact form. Schedule an in person or virtual consultation and let’s work together to get you that happy ending you want.