There are many reasons people choose divorce. Some of them though are fairly common. A couple in Texas can file for divorce for any reason that is meaningful to them. Let us look at the top five reasons people choose divorce.
Though the reason people choose divorce may depend on who you ask, there are some major ones that lead the field. Divorce is difficult for everyone involved; the couple choosing to divorce, their children, family, and friends. Therefore, we recommend that if you can stay together and make your marriage work, you should.
However, there are times when divorce is necessary. Should you find yourself needing a divorce, Texas divorce lawyer Wendy Hart is here to help you through the process in an ethical manner while ensuring that you understand your rights and options.
Top Five Reasons People Choose Divorce
1. Financial Conflicts
Money problems can lead to divorce or cause conflict that ends in divorce, such as:
• Spouses are not “on the same page” when handling money
• Financial instability
• High debts
• One spouse handles all money without input from the other
• Dynamics when one spouse earns more
Financial problems can lead to serious conflicts and arguments between spouses that end up in divorce. One may blame the other, or both parties cannot have a conversation. Getting professional financial can help couple’s finances under control.
Two people can make it work until it doesn’t. Incompatibility can mean:
• “Growing apart” or “falling out of love”
• Lack of commitment from one or both parties
• Chronic arguing and conflict
• Disagreement about having children or starting a family
• Religious differences, including different values and disagreements on raising children
Incompatibility is also prevalent in midlife divorces, also known as gray divorces when long-term married couples choose to divorce. After their children move out, “empty nesters” discover that they do not share the same goals going forward.
Incompatibility covers a myriad of specifics but in general, it comes down to a married couple not being able to live harmoniously together.
3. Lack of Communication
It often starts off slowly, with a couple not sharing thoughts, feelings, or concerns. Over time, the two spouses don’t talk anymore about significant issues or resolving conflicts. Without effectively communicating needs and expectations, one or both may find that needs and expectations are not met. Lack of communication erodes trust and creates disappointment and contempt. The key is effective communication, where what is said is heard and respected and results in the building of trust, resolution of conflict, and a stronger supportive relationship.
A lack of communication may not alone lead to divorce. But without effective communication reaction, problems in a marriage build up and eventually, a person may no longer wish to be with their spouse.
4. Lack of Intimacy May Lead to Infidelity
Intimacy involves feelings of emotional closeness and connectedness with another person, and that often includes the ability to love, trust, and care for our spouse in a sexual relationship. The lack or absence of intimacy creates a rift in a marriage, which if not resolved, widens over time.
If a couple has a lack of intimacy, they may stray looking for that intimacy with someone else. Infidelity is a big trust breaker in a marriage. There are various reasons for what causes lack of intimacy including lack of communication, health issues such as weight gain, and stress. Whatever the reason, lack of intimacy can lead to infidelity which in turn leads to divorce.
5. Abuse & Addictions
Physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse are simply detrimental to relationships. An ill-treated spouse wants the abuse to end and must sometimes exit the marriage for their own physical and mental safety. This goes for men and women.
Addictions are sometimes insurmountable in a marriage. Addiction to alcohol, drugs, gambling, pornography or other substances causes tremendous strain on a relationship. A spouse may divorce to protect themselves and their children from the bad behavior of an addict.
Tarrant County’s Compassionate Divorce Attorney
Whatever the reason, if getting a divorce makes the best sense for you, then now is the time to learn about how Attorney Wendy Hart can help. Since 2001, Wendy L. Hart has been helping people in the Fort Worth area with various family law issues, including divorce. She represents men and women in all matters, including child support, child custody/visitation, estate, and other family law cases. As an experienced lawyer, she understands what’s involved when a relationship breaks down and will help guide your divorce ethically and with as little conflict as possible.
If considering divorce, we’re ready to help. Call the Law Office of Wendy L. Hart at (817) 842-2336 or use our online contact form to schedule your virtual consultation or appointment. We serve clients throughout the Fort Worth area and residents throughout Tarrant, Johnson, and Ellis counties.