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Adultery
It’s one of the most painful ways to end a marriage: adultery. When someone discovers that their spouse has willingly been unfaithful, it elevates that conflict to an entirely different level. Many prefer to go with an uncontested divorce, also called a no-fault divorce, to make it easier. It’s one of the most common ways to divorce in Texas, especially if all the property divisions are completed outside of court. But Texas also allows for divorces based on grounds of fault, such as divorce due to adultery. But to prove adultery, an aggrieved spouse needs sufficient evidence showing that there was an extramarital relationship that was sexual and that the marriage was irretrievably broken as a result. Therefore, if you believe your spouse has engaged in adultery during your marriage, you will need the evidence to prove your claim. Although adultery is not a criminal charge in Texas, it can greatly impact the outcome of a divorce proceeding. Navigating that process is difficult, painful, and can also be expensive.
How Adultery Impacts Your Divorce
Gone are the days when an aggrieved spouse received “everything” in a divorce due to adultery. Much will depend on whether the adultery was a one-time lapse of judgment or an ongoing extramarital relationship. At issue is whether a spouse spent marital assets on the extramarital relationship. Gifts, dinners, trips, hotel rooms, and other related expenses paid for with marital funds to support the extramarital affair can mean an increase in a divorce settlement. When the spouse in question spends marital assets, the other spouse may be awarded a larger portion of the community property to compensate for the loss of marital assets.
Prenups
If you and your spouse included a clause for divorce due to adultery in your prenup, chances are it is enforceable. Your family law attorney can explain whether your prenup can be enforced to include adultery, or if it will be addressed separately.
Defining “Adultery” And Evidence Requirements
Texas Family Code, Section 6.003, allows for a judgment based on adultery. Texas law defines adultery as a married person who intentionally has a physical sexual relationship with a person, not their spouse.
However, an alleged relationship that consists primarily of non-sexual contact, such as lewd or risqué text messages or direct messages on social media, phone calls, etc., would not necessarily qualify as adultery, despite being very upsetting to a spouse who discovers them.
However, showing these in court demonstrates that the party’s actions led to the spouse’s adultery. Clear evidence is required to prove adultery. Getting direct evidence, such as photographs of someone with the other party, may be difficult, and may require the assistance of a private detective.
Circumstantial evidence can also be used to establish proof of an adulterous affair, such as the messages above or calls. Unexplained expenditures and payments, bank statements, receipts, or other documentation like suspicious financial activity that suggests adultery such as purchases made for another person.
To prove adultery, the plaintiff needs to present this evidence to show conclusively that their spouse engaged in adultery during the marriage. Because Texas does not have a legal separation, any relationship after the parties split is still considered “adultery” until the divorce is finalized. These actions can greatly influence the court and the judge when making decisions in the case.
What About Alimony, Child Custody, and Child Support?
For the spouse that proves adultery, he or she may also be awarded a larger sum of spousal support (alimony) payments to compensate them for the losses of marital assets.
Child support may also be increased, as well as limitations on conservatorship (custody.) A parent who continues an extramarital relationship may be ordered to pay a larger sum to the other parent.
The adulterous parent may also see their visitation schedule reduced due to a lack of judgment and ability to provide for their children. This is especially true if the parent engages in adultery in front of the children, or if the adulterous partner poses any danger to the children. A judge must make decisions based on the best interest of the couple’s child or children.
If the adulterous parent is shown failing to use good judgment, the judge may award limited and/or supervised visitation rights to that parent. The judge may even award one parent sole managing conservatorship (sole custody) if the adulterous parent is particularly negligent. However, adultery alone is not necessarily enough to render a parent as “unfit.”
Every case is different, so it’s important to have assistance and guidance from an experienced Texas family law attorney before proceeding.
Adultery’s Emotional Toll On The Family
Of course, adultery is more than just a legal issue. The breach and loss of trust and respect are devastating. Children can also be impacted by the difficult strife between parents and the sudden loss of one of them in their daily lives.
In the immediate aftermath, the emotional fallout and trauma can take a toll on everyone involved. The spouse left to pick up the pieces may find they have little support from family and friends and do not know where to turn.
You may feel like your divorce lawyer may be the only person you can talk to about adultery and divorce. Your lawyer can help you with the divorce due to adultery until it’s finished. A better option is to work with a therapist to help you and your children handle the emotional toll and trauma from your spouse’s adultery. Not only will it keep your billable hours lower, but a therapist can help you and your children work through the suffering and recover. Once finalized, you’ll be able to move on from your divorce and go forward with your children without dwelling on their adultery.
Can a couple recover their relationship after adultery? That’s up to the two spouses involved. Do both parties want to heal and recover their marriage, or has the adulterous party already moved on to another relationship? Recovery from adultery is possible, but takes time and depends on what each spouse wants.
Contact Wendy L. Hart For Adultery Grounds For Divorce And Other Family Law Matters
Divorce is always difficult. A marriage impacted by adultery can make things much more difficult, both legally and emotionally. But you don’t have to go through the process alone. Wendy L. Hart has been helping both men and women and their families through divorce since 2001. With an experienced and compassionate divorce attorney on your side, Ms. Hart will work for the best possible outcome in your case. The first step is to contact the Law Office of Wendy L. Hart at (817) 842-2336.
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